taatalicious

father: abuser or ally?

Taatalicious is a social innovation that studies the power of the father & father-figure to chart a child's life going forward.

Taatalicious studies the Office of Father to identify daddy-issues and father-figures. OFF is the most overlooked office in the family institution today. The most endangered species in the world is the African Man: he is...
+ hunted by the police state (man as enemy);
+ haunted by bad memories (man as war fodder);
+ hounded by infamous comedians (man as a joke).

Men in Uganda 20^mn+
Men will be Fathers 4^/5
Males in Uganda 50^%
Father Absent Homes 7^/10

State of Fatherhood

Thomas TaataDaniella, Apr 2024

Father has many names: Taata (baGanda). Baba (baGwere). Papa(Spanish). Ise(Rwandan). The Office of Father-Figure (OFF) is the most overlooked office in the family institution today. The most endangered species in the world is the African Man: hunted, haunted, hounded.
"Have you taken time to appreciate your dad today?"

Father's Day is ...
+ Jun: Uganda
+ Dec: Phillipines
+ Mar: Dominican Republic
— Father's Day in different countries

Fatherless

"Do Orphans Lead the World? The origins of civilisation's illness" (Boris Sirbey 1978) is the title of a book that did research on 500+ leaders around the world. Fatherly love, on the other hand, represents justice: the father sets limits, initiates rights and duties, rewards or sanctions the behaviour of his children and enables them to build a healthy awareness of good and evil and to become individuals in their own right.

The real problem therefore begins in reality when inner suffering fails to transform itself into a positive energy and feeds the suffering of the World. These orphans had daddy issues...

Idi Amin Dada (Uga): abandoned @ 8
Adolf Hitler (Germany): fatherless @14, motherless@18
Churchill (abandoned)
Joseph Stalin
Julius Caeser (Rome)
Cleopatra
Ramses II (Egypt)
Loius VIX
Napoleon (France)
George Washington (USA)
Karl Marx
Lenin
Roosevelt
Barack Obama

Fatherhood

The Father Ecosystem includes the extended family.
There are many names for father in all 7000 languages of the Earth for example:

Kampala Street: kazende boy, fithe
English: Dad, Daddy, Father, Pops
French: Pere, papa
Italian: papa, pa, papi, tata
Japanese: otousan, papa, otouchan
Dutch: pa,papa,vader,pappa
Korean: abeoji, appa
German: papa,papi,vater,vati,papilein
Hindu: paapa,bapa, abba
Arabic: abee, ab, baba
Cantonese: baa
Mandarin Chinese: baba
Danish: far, fader
Catalan: pare
Hungarian: apa
Polish: ojczulek,tato,tata, tatus,papa,papcio
Swedish: pappa
Turkish: baba
Greek: baba
Norwegian: far, pappa
Indonesian: ayah, papah,papa,bape,bapak,babe,abah,amang,tati,papi
Portuguese: papai,pai,paizinho,paizao

This son of man does not have where to lay his head: he has to choose between the cold desert (Europe/American), the hot desert (Arab states) and the financial desert (chronic poverty back home)."
TaataDaniella

Blueprint: Anatomy of Fantastic Father

presence | partner support | positive discipline

Father is ...
+ Abeoji, appa (Korean)
+ Baba(Gwere), Babbino(Italian)
+ Dada (Bantu)
+ Father (English)
+ Ise (Rwandan)
+ Mang (Indonesian)
+ Kazende boy(Kampala Street)
+ Outusan (Jp), ojczulek (Pol)
+ Papa (Spanish), Pa, Papi
+ Taata (baGanda)
+ Vader (Dutch)
— 'Father' in different languages

"A father has three cardinal roles:", according to Sonke Gender Justice, "presence - available for his children; partner support - helpful to his wife; positive discipline - model god values and behaviour to his children". It has been rightly said that: "The greatest gift that a father can give his children is to love their mother" (Theodore Heburgh). We've borrowed a leaf from our wise forefathers as articulated in African proverbs...

A fatherless boy is no better than unburied seed.
A man never grows up until his father dies.
An immoral father-in-law cannot advise his children well.
If you have a poor father, that is destiny; if you have a poor father-in-law, that is your mistake.
Victory has a hundred fathers but defeat is an orphan.
Your mother is the bodyguard of your father.
The son shoots a leopard; the father is proud.
No shortcuts exist to the top of a palm tree.
Even the lion protects himself against the flies.
The axe forgets but the tree remembers.

If you have a poor father, that is destiny; if you have a poor father-in-law, that is your mistake"
African Proverb

Father's Code of Honour

graduating from man to father

The African Man is...
+ Landless
+ Stateless
+ Penniless
+ Faceless
+ Voiceless
+ Hopeless
+ Spineless
+ Speechless
+ Shapeless
+ Homeless
—Endangered Species List: African Father

The Office of Father is a under attack from home-wreckers. It is open knowledge that men die much younger than women. The discussions have deteriorated to 'Who is better: Daddy or Mommy?'

This son of man does not have where to lay his head: he has to choose between the cold desert (Europe), the hot desert (Arab states) and the financial desert (chronic poverty back home).

The African Man is disempowered; he is...

Landless: he has sold his birthright.
Stateless: floating like a refugee.
Penniless: broke like Church mouse
Faceless: defaced by the invasions.
Voiceless: silenced by dead policies.
Hopeless: he sees a bleak future.
Spineless: afraid of his own shadow.
Speechless: can't sell his products.
Shapeless: abhors his own skin.
Homeless: lives in a borrowed shell.

If you hit your head against a jug and it makes a hollow sound, don't assume that it's the jug that is empty"
African Proverb

The greatest gift that a father can give his children is to love their mother"
Theodore Heburgh

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family systems strengthening

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