maamalicious

mother: treasure or trauma?

Maamalicious is a social innovation that leverages the power of the mother-figureas a female parent.

Maamalicious seeks to amplify the power behind mommy issues and mother-figure. A mother is a...
+ Woman: bearer of next generation of children;
+ Wife: a companion or help mate in life;
+ Warrior: an amazon like mama bear;
"Have you taken time to appreciate your mother's sacrifices today?"

Females in Uganda 50^%
Women face violence 1^/3
Teenage mother by 19y 1^/4
Married by 19y 1^/2

State of Motherhood

Aug 2024

The Office of Mother/maama/mamuska is the most overworked office in the family especially when you consider the rise of single mothers. A supportive wife is worth her weight in gold; what Muslims call 'Riziki' (fountain of blessing).

Mother is ...
+ Ama (Basque)
+ Bunda (Indonesian)
+ Ema (Estonian)
+ Haha (Japanese)
+ Ibu (Indonesian)
+ maama, mamushka
+ Nanay (Filipino)
+ Ommi (Arabic)
— Mother in different languages

Motherless

"Do Orphans Lead the World?" (Sirbey 1978) is the title of a book that did research on 400+ leaders around the world. Maternal love, which is essential in the first phase of growth, represents compassion and unconditional acceptance: the mother consoles her children and makes them feel loved no matter what. It offers a matrix of empathy that provides a basis of emotional security from which an individual can develop (Sirbey 1978, Do orphans lead the world?).

Mother comes in many different languages as in...

English: mother,mum,mama, mummy,mom, mommy,ma
French: maman,mere
Italian: mamma,mammina
German: mama,mutter,mutti,mami
Dutch: moeder,moer
Hindu: maan,maji
Japanese: okaasan,haha,mama
Korean: eomma,eomeonim,eomeoni
Indonesian: mama,bunda,ibu,'bu
Polish: mama,mamula,mamon, mamuska,matula,mamcik
Vietnamese: Me
Swahili: mama
Czech: matka
Turkish: Anne
Tamil: Amma
Ukrainian: mama,matusya,matinka
Afrikaans:ma,moeder
Basque: ama
Spanish: mami,mama,madre
Danish: mor
Filipino: mama,nanay,nay
Portuguese: mae
Russian: mamachka,mam, mamoosya,mama
Swedish: mamma,mor,morsa
Greek: mama,metera
Estonian: Ema
Arabic: omm,ommi
Finnish: mami,mama,aiti,mutsi

If you educate a man, you educate one person.
If you educate a women, you educate a whole family"
African Proverb

Blueprint: Anatomy of Memorable Mother

woman | companion | wife

Memorable Mama is...
+ Head: mother's wisdom
+ Heart: mother's wishes
+ Hands: mother's works
+ Heels: mother's walk
+ House: mother's wall
—mother

However you become a mother: either by accident or by choice, by rape or by love,by surprise or by preparation; you are faced with two decisions - let the baby live or terminate the unwanted pregnancy.

Whatever your lot is in life, it is of great significance that you treat your role as mummy or mother-figure (nanny, grandma, auntie) with care. For the elephants, the alpha female is a matriarch that leads the herd as they navigate the savannah grassland.

An ideal mother has five facets...

Head: a mother's wisdom percolates directly into a child especially in the early years.
Heart: a mother's wishes for her child are usually pure.
Hands: a mother works hard to shape her child into a responsible citizen.
Heels: a mother walks miles in search of food and sustenance for her children.
House: a mother's love is a wall that keeps badness out and goodness in.

A family is like a forest. When you are outside it is dense. When you are inside, you see that each tree has its place"
African Proverb

xxx — `Mother`

**A woman is not a(n)...**:
cow: to lash at
drum to hit on
ball to kick on
gong to strike hard
dog to keep on a leash
footstool to step on
— `Domestic Violence`.

A Virtuous Wife ...
avails a listening ear
is his first champion
contributes to household income
socialise with his family & friends
defers instant gratification
loves him as husband, not just daddy of house
— She4He: What is Partner Support?

Domestic Violence

Statistics from UN-WOMEN show that 1 in 3 women have experienced intimate partner violence at one time in their life. The possible causes of intimate partner violence are many.

Your wife is not a(n)...

ball to kick
orange to squash
drum to hit on
cow to lash at
trashcan to dump
gong to strike at
footstool to step on
doormat to trample on
dog to keep on a leash
punching bag to box on

Partner Support

A supportive wife is worth her weight in gold; what the Muslims call 'Riziki' (fountain of blessing). The Bible says: "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord".

There're many ways she can help eg...

avails him a listening ear
socialises with his family
defers instant gratification
loves him as her husband
feeds him the night meal
supports his home team
tolerates his misgivings
is his first champion
accords him respect
manages the home

A family tie is like a tree, it can bend
but it cannot break"
African Proverb

Mother's Code of Honour

a mother's love is irreplaceable

Get involved as:
Advisor/ Mentor,
Brain trust,
Caregiver,
Designer,
Encourager,
Funder/ Sponsor

Of all Job Descriptions in the African family, the Office of Mother is the most hazardous because one wrong decision (especially in choosing a soul mate) and you are trapped in a loveless marriage for what seems like 'eternity'. The mothers are the unsung heroes of the parenting mission.

The substance that mother is made of is...

Strong enough to withstand child birth
Gentle enough to nurture babies
Courageous enough to carry a pregnancy to full term
Tough enough to withstand the corrosive nature of child bearing

A women is a flower;
her husband is the fence around it"
African Proverb

Ready to Join

family systems strengthening

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